My name is Lara, and for twelve long, exhausting years, I was a single mother in London, raising my two children alone after their father walked out on us. Life was tough — juggling two jobs, school runs, and constant worry about bills. I had completely given up on love. At 45, my only focus was giving my children a better future. Romance felt like a distant fairytale I no longer believed in.
Then Otunba Showbayo entered my life like a miracle.
We met online through a mutual friend during one of those lonely nights. He was a 58-year-old successful businessman based in Ibadan, Nigeria. From our very first video call, his charisma was undeniable. He was articulate, deeply spiritual, and listened to every detail of my struggles with genuine concern. “Lara, a woman like you deserves to be cherished, not struggling alone,” he would say softly.
For one full month, Otunba Showbayo swept me off my feet in the most beautiful way. He sent money for my children’s school fees, groceries, and even surprised us with new clothes. Our daily calls stretched into hours. He prayed with me, fasted with me, and spoke about building a stable home for us in Nigeria. He adored my kids — calling them “my own blood” and promising to sponsor their education in the best schools back home.
My friends warned me it was too fast, but after twelve years of loneliness, his love felt like oxygen. When he proposed that we relocate to Nigeria so he could properly take care of us, I didn’t hesitate. I sold most of my things in London, quit my jobs, and moved back home with my children.
The first two weeks in his beautiful mansion on the outskirts of Ibadan felt like heaven. The house was luxurious, the help respectful, and Otunba continued treating me like a queen. He took us shopping, introduced us to some of his friends, and even enrolled my children in a prestigious private school. I kept thanking God for finally remembering me.
Everything seemed perfect. Too perfect.
Then, exactly one month after we arrived in Nigeria, my world came crashing down.
It happened on a quiet Wednesday evening while Otunba was away for a supposed business meeting in Lagos. I was looking for some documents in his private study when I opened a drawer that had been left slightly ajar. What I saw inside made my blood run cold.
There were marriage certificates, family photos, and children’s birth records.
Otunba Showbayo already had **four wives**.
I wasn’t his new wife — I was supposed to be the **fifth**.
The photos showed all four wives together at recent family events, including one taken just days before I arrived from London. His youngest wife, a 28-year-old lady, was heavily pregnant with their next child. In his personal notebook, he had neatly written my name with the note: “Mature, hardworking, brings her own money and children — ideal for completing the family. Handle with patience.”
The man who had fasted and prayed with me, who had promised me a peaceful Christian home, who had called my children “my own,” was running a well-planned polygamous empire. I was just the latest addition.
When Otunba returned that night and saw the documents scattered on the table, the loving, gentle man I knew vanished instantly. He became cold and authoritative. “This is our culture, Lara. My other wives already know about you and have accepted it. You will adjust.”
I couldn’t breathe. I had uprooted my children from their lives in London for this nightmare.
That same night, while he slept, I packed our bags with trembling hands. With the help of one of the house helps who took pity on me, we slipped out through the back gate before dawn. I drove through the night with my scared children to a relative’s house in Osogbo, crying the entire journey.
I left everything behind — the luxury, the promises, and the man I thought was sent by God.
Today, I am back in Osogbo, starting over again with almost nothing. My heart is broken, but my eyes are now wide open. Twelve years of being a strong single mother, only to nearly lose everything in one month because I ignored the voice of caution.
To every single mother out there: No matter how lonely you feel, never rush. Never ignore red flags because of sweet words and temporary comfort. Protect your children first. Some men are not rescuers — they are collectors.
I met my “dream man” at 45, moved back to Nigeria with my kids, and one month later, I was literally running for my life.
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